Busy times

For a dad blogger, I feel like I’ve not written too much about being a dad lately. Sorry about that!

Things have been super busy on all fronts – as they tend to be as a parent – so I wanted to give you a general update (on nothing in particular) and summarise a little of what’s been happening in our lives.

First of all, and most importantly, Marley has been a star. He’s turning in to this beautifully sweet and polite little man, he makes me laugh absolutely every single day without fail and we all generally couldn’t be happier.

A couple of good eggs

We have tried really hard as parents to make sure we are bringing him up properly. Every parent faces the tricky task of trying to mold and shape their little people in the way they want, without knowing how it’s going to work out, so it’s incredibly rewarding to see him becoming such a nice little guy.

He asks me how my day was when I get home from work, he thanks us both whenever we give him his dinner….he even congratulates me when I get song lyrics correct!

I’ll be singing along to one of his TV shows and when I finish I hear his little voice say: “well done daddy”

It’s so nice!

But it’s not all, necessarily, plain sailing. There are times when he presses our buttons.

Most evenings before bed he will, in some little way, test the limits of what he can get away with either by doing something we’ve instructed him not to, or by not doing something we have (repeatedly) asked him to.

Put that down. Come and brush your teeth.

No, put that down. PUT THAT DOWN!

That’s right, come and brush your teeth.

No, don’t pick that up. No. Put that down. Come and brush your teeth.

PUT THAT DOWN. COME AND BRUSH YOUR TEETH NOW!!!

I think it’s this part I find the most difficult. When he’s been so good during the day, but then in the evening, when he’s felling a little tired, he pushes us that little bit too far.

It’s really challenging not to get wound up. But it’s also really important that he knows when he’s misbehaving.

I have heard some parenting advice that says you must always remain positive, and never threaten punishment. But I truly don’t understand a) how that works, or b) how that could possibly prepare Marley for the real world, where everything isn’t rosy and certainly isn’t always positive.

So our strategy is very much to let him know that if he does something wrong, there will be consequences.)

You know, something shocking. Like not getting to have his little deer toy in his bed for the night.

Sorry…

So aside from continuing our parental learning experience, and watching lots of episodes of Peter Rabbit, there’s also plenty of other things going on.

My wife is right on the cusp of launching her online jewellery business to the world….more details on that to come very soon.

And I’m just about to start presenting my very own radio show! I worked in a radio station for several years almost a decade ago, and as producer I was usually behind the scenes. So i’m very excited at the prospect of doing my own thing and deciding what to talk about, who to invite as a guest and what music to play.

I will be posting plenty more about both of these exciting developments in the coming weeks. So if you haven’t already done so, please enter your email in the ‘subscribe’ thingy up top and get those updates….and i’ll see you soon!

Radio gaga

I watched Bohemian Rhapsody on my flight back from the Middle East last week, and I have been listening to Queen songs on repeat ever since.

It is absolutely brilliant by the way – I completely loved it. I grew up listening to Queen at home and on most car journeys with my family, and if there was one band alive or dead who I could choose to see for a single live performance it would definitely be them.

The movie ticked all the boxes, and reminded me just how much I love their music.

Credit: rollingstone.com

So when an opportunity arose this week to go and visit a local radio station – and take the little man along, of course – I was obviously Radio Gaga about it (sorry – I’m afraid there are lots more of these to come).

About ten years ago I was working as a producer at Edinburgh station Talk 107 (which Bit The Dust shortly after I left) so I’m no stranger to a radio studio, but I thought it might be a fun thing to do with Marley, what with all the people and buttons and flashing lights.

Wandsworth Radio is a community station soon to be making the Breakthru in to the neighbouring boroughs of Richmond, Merton and Lambeth and is run by an awesome team of volunteers.

Full disclosure: I was actually going along half-hoping I might be able to convince them they need to sanction a show presented by a dad blogger who likes to talk a lot and who could interview some interesting people for them.

Basically, I Want To Break Free from doing only written blog posts and have considered starting a companion podcast for a while now, so I figured if I could gain the support of a local station to do that then that would be very cool.

Not that I Want It All, or anything….

Anyway, we had a great time – we were shown around the studio by the Station’s Director, Jason Rosam, who was kind enough to let us go in and watch a live show being broadcast.

We even got a shot in the news booth – where Marley started Going Slightly Mad because daddy wouldn’t let him press the buttons.

We did get away with it when Jason wasn’t looking, though….

Don’t Stop Me Now….

Afterwards, the bus home was absolutely packed, and Marley fell asleep on me. Just as I was carrying him off, we had to squeeze past a group of Fat Bottomed Girls and he must have gone Headlong in to them because, unknown to me, his hat came off.

To be fair, I have form for this kind of thing…I leave stuff everywhere. But this was a particularly upsetting item to lose.

I mean, look at him wearing it….he’s like a little Good Old Fashioned Lover Boy.

Eyeing up the buttons……

I miss working in radio, so hopefully some Kind of Magic opens up an opportunity again in the future.

For now at least, Valentine’s Day is almost upon us. And with many, many years’ experience of getting to this stage in the past and being completely unprepared, I’m going to write a post about some Valentine’s Day hacks to help other useless lovers out.

Knowing me, it will probably take me so long to write it that I end up forgetting to buy a gift for my wife, so I might need to apologise in advance….

I hope it helps you out anyway – and who knows, it might even help you find Somebody To Love

OK, that’s enough now…..have a good week!